Why my son is gay
Support for Parents of Child Who Says He’s Gay
Before saying anything else, we want you to know that our hearts go out to you. Our prayers are with you, and we are privileged to have this opportunity to come alongside you in the midst of your pain and confusion.
The conflicting emotions you’re experiencing – crying one moment, enraged the next – is a prevalent and understandable reaction. Any loving parent in your position would feel the same way. It’s also very likely that you’re struggling with grief – the natural reaction that occurs when we’ve encountered decrease. Though you may not yet notice it, you’ve confused something significant. It may be the image of and beliefs you had about your son, your perceptions of yourself as a parent, or perhaps your desires and hopes for grandchildren. Whatever the case, it’s important to identify and confess the reality of these losses. You may find a helpful way to do this is though journaling or with the assistance of a intelligent pastor, counselor, your spouse, or a trusted friend.
Wise guidance and caring help is especially invaluable during the first stages of this crisis. At some point you’l
Help! My Son is Gay
by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director
“So should I push my son towards women now?” That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with same gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality. But the answer to their son’s struggle is not to push him into the arms of a woman. In truth, such a move could actually do more damage than good.
But what should a dad do for his son? In a word: connect! I recognize when saying that many dads might think, “I am joint to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.” But the fact is that simply being present doesn’t represent you have any kind of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can hear and perceive . Proclamations of facts do small to move his heart. He wants words dripping with unprocessed emotion and heart-felt passion. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him. In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in his eyes and tell him how much you love him, how proud you are of him, and how you ponder he has what i
What I Did When My 11-Year-Old Son Came Out as Gay
My son was 11 years senior when he told me he was bisexual. I honestly would’ve been less surprised if he’d pulled out a switchblade and told me he’d linked the Warriors road gang.
“Thank you for confiding in me,” I told him. I only knew to say that because I was the last parent in my social circle with a kid to reach out as either gay, bi or gender nonbinary. A global survey conducted in 27 countries (including the U.S.) and released last June found that nearly 1 in 5 young adults — those born after 1997, otherwise known as Generation Z — spot as something other than straight.
But you know what doesn’t help when you’re sitting in a car with your 11-year-old as he tells you that he’s sexually attracted to both boys and girls? Statistics. You could reveal me 1 in 5 Gen Zers are growing goatees, and my first thought would still be, My son is too new for a goatee!
According to Christy Olezeski, the director and cofounder of the Yale Pediatric Gender program, my first reaction was the right one. “The parent should state, ‘Thank you so much for trusting me to appear to me with this information,’” she says. So far, so go
5 Powerful Things You Can Do If Your Youngster Tells You, "I'm Gay."
You may not have been expecting to hear the words "I'm gay" from your child. Not only did you never envision it, but your religious beliefs and values also do not align with same-sex relationships. So, what do you do now? How do you respond to your child telling you they're gay?
As a parent, you may own had the inclination that your child may be gay. As a finding, the news may simply confirm your suspicions, and the conversation may be easy. On the hostile, you may feel furious or shocked. Likewise, you may struggle with the idea and have a natural tendency to lock down the conversation or put it off as merely a phase they're going through. In life, regardless of how you feel, the way you respond in the first five minutes could position the tone for your child for years to come.
In this article, we'll discuss the critical moments after your child comes to you and says, "I'm gay." With the help of Dr. Devon Mills is a licensed therapist in Atlanta, GA, we'll highlight five dominant things you can execute to help create a place of safety and love, regardless of how you feel about