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W hen I was in graduate school, I worked part-time in retail. One of my co-workers — let’s call him Jake — was a ivory gay man who liked to say stories about his various dating exploits each time we had a switch together. These conversations quickly went from amusing to problematic. Jake’s tales frequently centered on his conservative rural upbringing, his “love” of black men, in part because of how “masculine” he thought they were, and how he didn’t like guys who were too “femme.” “How would your family react if you were dating someone who wasn’t white?” I asked, trying to make small communicate during a lull between customers. “That would never happen,” Jake said. “Black men are for fucking; white men are for bringing home to your family.”

I shouldn’t have been surprised, but the frankness of his words stunned me into silence for the remainder of my shift. I later tried to make Jake notified of his racism, but he said that had nothing to do with him. He couldn’t possibly be racist because he was attracted to jet men. Not prolonged after, I quit in order