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I think my son is gay

Dear Marcy,

Thank you for writing so openly and courageously about your situation. I’m so glad that your son has such a loving and supportive parent! This is not an easy situation to be in. As you said, your son may be gay, or he may not be. Gender statement and identity (as well as masculinity or femininity) are aspects of a person that are separate and separate from their sexual orientation. Your dread of bullying is a legitimate one. Interests and behaviors that are perceived as feminine in boys are often frowned upon by others, but thankfully, this does come across to be behind changing in society.

I understand your temptation to discourage the behavior that may lead to bullying in an endeavor to protect your son, but think of that trying to change what he does will not change what he likes or who he is. And as you probably realize, these interests may not be a phase. As wonderful as your intentions would be in trying to change how he acts and what interests he pursues, the message that he will overhear is that he is not OK the way he is. Instead, I would urge you to have trustworthy discussions with your son about bullying and how to deal with it, and the evidence that some people don’t yet un

Responding to Teen Child Who Says He’s Gay

I’m devastated that my son thinks he’s gay. One minute I’m so angry I could scream — and the next I just sit and cry. We love our son, but we don’t want the influence of same-sex attraction in our home (we have younger kids in the house).

ANSWER:

Before we say anything else, know that our hearts go out to you in the pain and confusion of hearing your teen son tell you that he’s gay. The emotions you’re experiencing are understandable reactions of a concerned and loving parent. You’re wise to ask for input about how to handle things, and we’ll cover several thoughts here:

Respond calmly and respectfully

So, how should you respond to what your son told you? Respectfully and in as cool-headed and non-reactive a way possible.

But don’t panic if you and your son have already had a blow-up with each other. Ask for forgiveness and the chance to start over. Agree with him that you’ll both do your best to stay away from hurtful attitudes and actions going forward. As with all interpersonal interactions, you can only control your choices and behavior, not the other individual’s. Do your part to interact we

Parent Suspects That Child Might Be Gay

 

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Believe it or not, it’s a hopeful sign that your teen son has brought up the subject of queer attraction and homosexuality. Nothing is more important than open communication between parent and child — especially when it comes to sexuality and gender identity.

So you might want to try drawing your son out. You could seek , “What made you curious about this?”

If you eavesdrop carefully and respond wisely, he might share more of his thought processes. This can lead to a helpful discussion of the subject. It will also strengthen your bond — and a nice parent-child relationship is one of the best lines of defense against homosexuality.

Hear your child’s heart

Joe Dallas, an expert in field of same-sex attraction, says that there are three different ways the synonyms “homosexuality” is used:

  • “Homosexuality” can be used to intend specifically homosexual behavior — in other words, sexual contact with a person of the same sex.
  • The word is often used to describe a frame of mind when a person sees homosexuality as a primary identifying typical (usually accompanied by acceptance of homosexuality as organism normal and mor

    Help! My Son is Gay

    by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director

    “So should I push my son towards women now?”  That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with same gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality.  But the retort to their son’s struggle is not to push him into the arms of a woman.  In fact, such a move could actually do more damage than good.
    But what should a dad perform for his son? In a word:  connect!  I perceive when saying that many dads might think, “I am connected to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.”  But the fact is that simply being offer doesn’t mean you have any nice of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can notice and understand. Proclamations of facts accomplish little to shift his heart. He wants words dripping with raw affect and heart-felt fire. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him.  In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in his eyes and inform him how much you love him, how proud you are of him, and how you think he has what i